『我的生活』Subsistence What's Love

Many people believe love is a sensation that magically generates when Mr. or Ms. Right appears. No wonder so many people are single. An excerpt from "Head to Heart."
"Okay. Love is that feeling you get when you meet the right person."  I said.
This is how many people approach a relationship. Consciously or unconsciously, they believe love is a sensation (based on physical and emotional attraction) that magically, spontaneously generates when Mr. or Ms. Right appears. And just as easily, it can spontaneously degenerate when the magic "just isn't there" anymore. You fall in love, and you can fall out of it.
So what is love -- real, lasting love?
Love is the attachment that results from deeply appreciating another's goodness.
By focusing on the good, you can love almost anyone.
The more you give, the more you love. 
A woman I know once explained why she's been happily married for 25 years. "A relationship has its ups and downs," she told me. "The downs can be really low -- and when you're in one, you have three choices: Leave, stay in a loveless marriage, or choose to love your spouse."

selenajo 发表于 2007-04-19 23:16:29 | 阅读 ()